Unfortunately, this is what it has to come to.
In addition to running this blog, I also run bspolitics. That blog as well as this one is going to be taken down very soon.
My SO has run a blog on tumblr off and on over the last 3 or 4 years and the harassment, stalking, and posting of her personal information on here has gotten completely out of hand.
It’s time to take a step away from this site, which I feel has become a very toxic environment.
There is a wall of text incoming, so stop here if you don’t feel like reading anymore.
In the last 6-8 months my SO’s health has deteriorated significantly.
She already had more than her fair share of health problems considering her entire large intestine was taken out when she was 16 due to Gardner’s syndrome and has a host of issues related to sciatica due to some issues she has with her spinal disks.
Recently, the sciatica became much worse, she began displaying several new symptoms and worsening of existing symptoms. She lost a significant amount of weight over a short period of time.
Her doctors, at first believed it to be multiple sclerosis, but the MRI didn’t show any lesions on her brain.
She also had a CT scan in order to look at the disks in her neck as well as her lymph nodes.
That scan showed that the lymph nodes in her neck were extremely swollen inward. She also had a cyst on her thyroid. This, along with all her other symptoms have lead the doctors to believe that she may have Hodgkin’s lymphoma. She is scheduled to have a biopsy on her lymph nodes and thyroid next.
This is in addition to the doctors discovering a precancerous cyst near her gallbladder and an abnormal stomach wall lining a few months earlier. Like I said, she has more than her fair share of health problems.
At this point, her doctors are looking for Hodgkin’s as opposed to ruling it out. At the very LEAST she may have lupus as its symptoms are very similar to Hodgkin’s - in fact a good friend of mine has lupus and they originally thought she had Hodgkin’s. We won’t know until after the biopsy.
She recently had to quit her job because she was basically told, “Quit or we are going to have to let you go because you miss so many days.” (along with a comment from her manager that basically implied she’s sick because she doesn’t pray enough).
Now, why am I giving you my SO’s health history? Because of a bunch of people on tumblr who have taken it upon themselves to tell her and others that she’s faking. One user even went as far as to say, “The best thing about this (as if they are just having a grand ‘ol time harassing my SO) is that she’s probably lying to him too.” (implying she is lying to me about her medical conditions, which would be pretty difficult considering I accompany her to most of her doctor’s appointments and talk to her doctors directly).
I am sick of this shit. Actually, I was sick of it a long time ago and kept quiet for the most part because my SO had specifically asked me to stay out of those particular battles on tumblr, but after the events of this weekend, I really can’t keep quiet anymore.
Over the weekend her personal information was posted on tumblr, that, along with all the other harassment, death threats, threats of violence and sexual assault she constantly received on her blog and her on-going health issues pushed her over the edge. She had a severe panic attack and was in the hospital on suicide watch all day Sunday.
The only reason I’m even able to be at work today is that we have a friend that is currently at home with her keeping her company.
One user who has stood out among all the people calling her health issues into question is tumblr user celestia, who has relentlessly harassed and bullied her online for literally months on end.
This person is obsessed, and has always managed to find her even when she changes URLs or had deleted and re-started her blog anew. Not only do they question her diagnoses at every turn. They personally attack her, her appearance, me and even my children in their little rants among her followers. We have reported this harassment to tumblr support several times and nothing is done about it.
Another blog popped up calling themselves foreverprovalone and claim that they are “just trying to call her out on her bullshit” - the ENTIRE BLOG is reblogs from my SO’s blog with commentary mocking/making fun of/questioning her medical conditions.
They claim we are scamming people because my SO asked for donations from time to time so we don’t end up having to sell all of our possessions every time we go through a rough patch.
She would miss a lot of work off and on back when she was still working due to her medical conditions and sometimes things get very tight. I have a chronic illness myself (diverticulitis) and can miss work at times due to it. I’ve used up all my sick time this year already, so any time missed is money out of our budget. She would ask for help from time to time when things were rough, and when we had it to give we help other people.
All of this makes me so angry I can’t even find a way to effectively put it into words.
I’ve had my fill of messages and comments that amount to, “LOL GET A SECOND JOB” or “LMAO SELL ALL YOUR SHIT”. or “If your mother bought your sons a PS4 for Christmas why didn’t she get you guys food.” (she fucking DID the god damn game system was in addition) all the fuck over tumblr.
Look, here’s the deal. I’m chronically ill. I have two teenage sons I look after, I have a full time job, I have a household to run, and I have an SO who can’t drive anymore, is in and out of a wheelchair and walks with a cane when they can.
I have a lot on my plate and I’m pushing up against the limits of what I am capable of.
When I’m not working, I’m taking care of my kids and taking care of a very, very, sick SO who’s condition has deteriorated rapidly over the last 6-8 months and has been having a hard time being able to do a lot for themselves due to the symptoms of what may at the worst be Hodgkin’s lymphoma and at the very LEAST may be lupus.
She is very, very sick and requires a lot of care, care I have been trying to provide on my own up until just this weekend as we had a friend staying with us who has been able to help out a bit.
Do you have any idea how infuriating it is to have a loved on who is so incredibly sick, and then to have people constantly claiming that they are making it up when I see what this illness is doing to her every day of my life?
How infuriating it is when I see them pulling my children into their petty online hatred?
When my sick SO has her personal information released online and I have kids in the house, then to have these people to make up all these outrageous claims that she released that personal information herself?
I don’t know what the hell is wrong with these people, but they seem purely driven by hate and some kind of gross satisfaction they get out of bullying a sick, disabled woman.
I really can’t take being this angry over it. I’m not going to argue with assholes anymore. You really can’t argue with them because their mind is already made up. When you get to the point where you’re claiming someone who is sick is even lying to their family about it, there is no reasoning, so I’m done.
I didn’t want to delete these blogs without at least letting the people who follow them know why.
I need to stay off tumblr for a very, very long time.
I’m going to leave this post up long enough for everyone to see it (at least on bspolitics) log out of tumblr and not look back.
This bullshit isn’t healthy for me or my SO right now.